Choice in the Making of a Principle.

"We can never run away from making mistakes, but when the same mistakes are made repeatedly, those aren’t mistakes no more, they’re choices".

Well…I said that.

A choice doesn’t happen by accident, they're made as we need to and only when we need to, although not often with a steady mind.

A mistake doesn’t happen by accident, they're made right after the choices we’ve chosen, with or without a steady mind.

If we all knew what mistakes we are about to do, we will call our self geniuses but even geniuses makes mistakes, remember the names of the World’s Greatest Inventors, and the answers are there, they make mistakes but they learn and improve and develop themselves into better Inventors…this is where the word Principle is born. But since none of us are geniuses, we tend to sometimes create our own storm and complaint when it rains.

When someone illustrates to offer you some advice, the intention is to make you into a better person (well that’s what advice is all about), it’s suppose to always and all the time a good advice, but if you refuse to listen then the choice is still yours, leaving the person whom had offered the advise either sad or mostly would say “well, it’s up to you”.

Firstly, if you managed to overcome your mistakes, then the ones offering you advice earlier on will admire your guts, but as you begin to continue to work on the same formula (the formula which had made you create past mistakes), the ones offering you advice earlier on will soon fade away.

“When you are 80 years old and reflecting on your life, the story that will be most meaningful will be the story of the choices you made. In the end, we are our choices. Make good choices, and build yourself a great story.” 

Jeff Bezos said this and I couldn’t agree more.

Life is hard, life is difficult, and when we thrown into such, situations tend to push us to the wall to make hasty decisions. But life wouldn’t be all the time hard and difficult would it? Coz’ if they are then we’re just not doing enough to change it. Add Up Your Choices and that’s Your Life. Change Your Choices and Change Your Life, so to speak.

During our life, we will make over one million choices. Some are big and most are small. Some we consciously make while others we put on auto pilot. Life is a fork in the road that consists of one choice after another from the time we are born until we pass on. All of these choices shape how our tree of life grows. (I love this part so I copied them from an article called Life is a Fork on the Road).

Women face choices in their lives ever since they’re born. Even in Islam, Women are the ones to be more protected, in sense of their appearance etc, to build a good and modest character in them so to speak, so Women are often being paid more attention.

When they’re born, they grow up and they have to be a good daughter, a good sister, and then later a good wife, a good mother and lastly a good grandmother or great grandmother...you see we haven't any choice; but that doesn’t mean that Men are opened to do whatsoever they wish under the sun, i'ts only the matter of the World and especially Islam had put Men as the Leader, so they have their bit to make choices their own ways in life and I wouldn't for once go against that.

A little scratch in a Woman’s life may cause her eternal unhappiness and eyesore in the Society. So, we Women tend to take every single step we can to ensure no scratches can even try to be in our lives. But tell me who can do that besides the beloved first Wife of our Prophet of Muhammad SAW. 

People expects more from a Woman when it comes to making choices in life, well as the saying goes, the hand that rocks the cradle can shake the World in a blink of an eye, but from my personal point of view, this saying doesn’t mean negativity at all, instead in means that Women are more prone into taking actions the minute she smells danger, the danger that might harm her loved ones.

At times, expectations can be bold, at times a burden to the beholder - from the perspective of common sense to compassion,

from cooperation to courage,
from courtesy to curiosity,
from dedication to effort,
from empathy to flexibility,
from forgiveness to fortitude,
from friendship to honesty,
from humanitarianism to humility,
from initiative to integrity,
from justice to loyalty,
from optimism to patience,
from patriotism to perseverance,
from problem solving to propriety,
from resiliency to respect,
from responsibility to self-discipline and finally
from sincerity to temperance.

Which one are we (both Men and Women)?, and which one would we consider to hold on to and what would that choice of ours make us be who we are today...this again depends on the choices we make.

Some lessons in life did it’s very best to change us, well of course into a better person, but we tend to forget one simple thing - all we needed was a proper tool to make us stay focused on reality of life. It's important to be clear on your priorities in life and not get caught up with endless distractions over our own repeated mistakes. Make your past mistakes as your lessons.

The only real failure in life is not trying, not doing it to make it better and healthier and superior. The only way to keep us worth living life is to first focus and understand on core principle…leave the choices behind to first understand reality, just take a minute to do this and trust me you'll be a better decision maker.

"In this life, we have to make many choices. Some are very important choices. Some are not. Many of our choices are between good and evil. The choices we make, however, determine to a large extent our happiness or our unhappiness, because we have to live with the consequences of our choices".

James E. Faust